This student wrote: Looking at the photo on the left, there is a sense of an observer watching and evaluating in a way that distances the person being looked at. In the photo on the right, there is a quality which could be described as "vital calm," a presence which is at once "out" (interested, curious, honoring) and, at the same time, "in" (self-possessed, relaxed and grounded). "Other" is embraced and "self" is not lost. Instead of separation, there is a sense of “joining with.”.